- To generate ideas
- The belief that it needs to be made and that you’re the one to make it
- Actually executing and making the ‘thing’
Get to it, you beautiful strong unicorn 🦄 💪
Get to it, you beautiful strong unicorn 🦄 💪
I’ve never worn red lipstick. I love the look, but I’ve never worn it. Why is that?
I could tell you it’s because I had yellow teeth and it didn’t suit me. But really it’s because I didn’t think that I could pull it off. It really comes down to confidence.
I like Mel Robbins definition of confidence.
“Confidence is the willingness to try.” —Mel Robbins
This morning in the shower, I was thinking about the red lipstick. Thinking do I actually like it? Perhaps I don’t.
And I realised that the reason that I thought I didn’t, was because I didn’t have feedback from others about whether they thought I could pull it off.
Then I thought about it. If no one else is involved, I f**king love red lipstick.
So wear the red lipstick. What ever your red lipstick is, just f**king do it.
Is it any wonder we’re an apathetic lot in Australia? We’re teased as kids for being weird, trying new things, liking uncommon things, doing things differently, being different. When all we want, is to fit in.
The contents of my brain today:
I’m too ugly. I’m too fat. I’m too busy. I have nothing worthy to say. I’m uninteresting. I’m boring. People are mean. It’s all too hard. Nothing’s ever going to be easy. I’m shit at everything. I’m always going to be shit at everything. Nobody likes me. I shouldn’t feel so edgy. That just makes me needy. I’m not allowed to feel this way. I’m tired. I want to eat all the brownie.
Today has been emotionally draining. So I’m going to keep telling myself, you’re allowed to feel that way. It’s ok. It’s normal. It’ll pass. But fucking hell, it’s hard. And some days just suck. Tomorrow may be better. It may not be. But it will get better. Some days just suck. Be kind to yourself, it’s ok sweetheart.
Do you shrink away, make yourself smaller so you don’t get noticed? Yeah me too. And it’s something I’m trying to give up. I’m trying to own the space that I so dearly want to take up. So much so, that there’s a lot of mantras coming out me at the moment. From the last post we have ‘say fuck it and have a go’. But that can be tough when we don’t think we deserve to take up the space we need to do that.
I have a confession. For so long, ever since I can remember, when asked to try something new, ‘nah’ was my default answer, followed by ‘I don’t think so’, or ‘not today’, or ‘perhaps another time when … ‘. It became my story. No new things. Ever.
Creativity is a concept that fascinates me. It has always seemed so elusive to my left brained, analytical self. Creativity. “the use of imagination or original ideas to create something; inventiveness.” Creating something from scratch, a thing that didn’t exist before. I equated creativity to painted works of art and fiction books, and I felt like I’d never have any ideas worthy of either pursuit.
This was until I read The art of asking by Amanda Palmer, who introduced me to the idea that creativity is simply just connecting the dots in a way that hasn’t been done before. This then lead me on to reading many things about how to generate ideas, how to look for ideas in the ordinary, and how to connect the dots in new ways.
13 things I’ve learned about creativity…
“Being confident and believing in your own self-worth is necessary to achieving your potential.” Sheryl Sandberg
Ladies, this is one we forget. ALL. THE. TIME.
So many of the women I talk to have lost their spark, just because we take on the stories we hear and tell them to ourselves.
So much stress. So much busy. Here’s nine ways to change your life to enjoy the fuck out of it. Or at least make it suck a whole lot less. They’re not big, and they’re not time consuming. But they can help you deal with the bullshit chucked at you each day. They work for me, and they could work for you too. Try ’em, and see how you go. (I’d love to hear, so hit me up in the comments).
Oooh this one is hard! But you can do it, just say “thank you”. No but this, or but that. Just suck it up, smile and say thanks. Why? Because you really do deserve it.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
I was chatting tonight with a friend who’s starting a business. She’s come from working corporate jobs for 20 years, and left due to burn-out and wanting to spend more time with her family.
She had a business idea before finishing work, but now she’s fighting that little voice that says she needs to go back and get a job. Just in case. Here’s the thing, she doesn’t need the money and she doesn’t really enjoy the work any more.
“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.”
– Tony Robbins
The inability to focus on and master something, is this a product of the society we live in? Do you find you do that too? You faff around, instead of doing the work? Not just the work, but any work? Are you filling your days with mindless fluff? An unfulfilling day job, computer games, television, movies all make for great distractions.
It’s been a while since I’ve stopped by here, because, well … life. 2017 has been a challenging one. With the balancing and the struggles, well it’s just been hard. D has mentioned a couple of times this past week that I’m being Mrs Negative, and you know, I was a little surprised, but when I thought about it not really surprised.