Category Archives:Life

When your brain talks shit …

The contents of my brain today:

I’m too ugly. I’m too fat. I’m too busy. I have nothing worthy to say. I’m uninteresting. I’m boring. People are mean. It’s all too hard. Nothing’s ever going to be easy. I’m shit at everything. I’m always going to be shit at everything. Nobody likes me. I shouldn’t feel so edgy. That just makes me needy. I’m not allowed to feel this way. I’m tired. I want to eat all the brownie.

Today has been emotionally draining. So I’m going to keep telling myself, you’re allowed to feel that way. It’s ok. It’s normal. It’ll pass. But fucking hell, it’s hard. And some days just suck. Tomorrow may be better. It may not be. But it will get better. Some days just suck. Be kind to yourself, it’s ok sweetheart.

Repeat after me: I’m allowed to take up space

Do you shrink away, make yourself smaller so you don’t get noticed? Yeah me too. And it’s something I’m trying to give up. I’m trying to own the space that I so dearly want to take up. So much so, that there’s a lot of mantras coming out me at the moment. From the last post we have ‘say fuck it and have a go’. But that can be tough when we don’t think we deserve to take up the space we need to do that. 

The art of creativity

Creativity is a concept that fascinates me. It has always seemed so elusive to my left brained, analytical self. Creativity. “the use of imagination or original ideas to create something; inventiveness.” Creating something from scratch, a thing that didn’t exist before. I equated creativity to painted works of art and fiction books, and I felt like I’d never have any ideas worthy of either pursuit. 

This was until I read The art of asking by Amanda Palmer, who introduced me to the idea that creativity is simply just connecting the dots in a way that hasn’t been done before. This then lead me on to reading many things about how to generate ideas, how to look for ideas in the ordinary, and how to connect the dots in new ways. 

13 things I’ve learned about creativity…

Life is short, 9 simple tips to change your outlook

So much stress. So much busy. Here’s nine ways to change your life to enjoy the fuck out of it. Or at least make it suck a whole lot less. They’re not big, and they’re not time consuming. But they can help you deal with the bullshit chucked at you each day. They work for me, and they could work for you too. Try ’em, and see how you go. (I’d love to hear, so hit me up in the comments).

1. Say “thank you”

Oooh this one is hard! But you can do it, just say “thank you”. No but this, or but that. Just suck it up, smile and say thanks. Why? Because you really do deserve it. 

One simple tip to fight the fear

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”

Dale Carnegie

I was chatting tonight with a friend who’s starting a business. She’s come from working corporate jobs for 20 years, and left due to burn-out and wanting to spend more time with her family.

She had a business idea before finishing work, but now she’s fighting that little voice that says she needs to go back and get a job. Just in case. Here’s the thing, she doesn’t need the money and she doesn’t really enjoy the work any more. 

Do you faff or do the work?

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.”

– Tony Robbins

The inability to focus on and master something, is this a product of the society we live in? Do you find you do that too? You faff around, instead of doing the work? Not just the work, but any work? Are you filling your days with mindless fluff? An unfulfilling day job, computer games, television, movies all make for great distractions. 

Why stay in one place when you can travel where the wind takes you?

Recently I’ve re read the four hour work week by Tim ferriss. He talks a lot about mini retirements. Mini retirements are about taking extended breaks now instead of deferring them until you’re older and retired. The first time I read the book this concept didn’t resonate with me, but this second time, we’re more settled emotionally, it seems like a feasible idea.

Get your arse off the couch and put your phone down

Standing in the one spot, doing the same things you’ve always done, will continue the sameness of your life. One thing we’re not taught as kids, or even adults, is that we need to keep learning and improving, and working towards you thing (goal, dream or achievement).

I’m not sure whether it’s the influence of our society, the media, our friends or something else, but collectively we have a view that someone will come and save us. That they will bring us the things we desire whether that’s wealth, fame or happiness. Somehow we’ve forgotten that we need to define what it is that we want or where it is we want to go; and, then that we need to work our butts off to get there.