Category Archives:Life

Uninterrupted time

It can be difficult to create anything in the absence of uninterrupted time. 

Do whatever you need to find uninterrupted time so that you can create the things that make your soul sing. Be more organised, find a productivity/scheduling system that works, find a babysitter, get up early, go to bed late. 

Do what you need to do to get the uninterrupted time.

Tiny step after tiny step

Lot’s of the tiniest of steps can take you amazing places.

In the pool with my 5 year old daughter today, she taught me an invaluable lesson about tiny steps and perseverance. 

Going back to the start, I need to tell you that’s she’s quite afraid of water. She’ll sit on the steps of the pool, she won’t trust the floaty vest to keep her safe in the deeper water. But today we learned our lesson.

When those around you have big emotions

Some days it feels like everyone around you is melting down. They’re having panic attacks or big emotions that just can’t be contained. No matter how much you try to logic or rationalise to them, nothing brings them relief.

Add to that you’re own inability to deal with strong emotions, or inability to deal with feeling helpless. Or impatience with them for not just “getting over it”, or not being able to “fix it” for them. 

Wear the red lipstick

I’ve never worn red lipstick. I love the look, but I’ve never worn it. Why is that?

I could tell you it’s because I had yellow teeth and it didn’t suit me. But really it’s because I didn’t think that I could pull it off. It really comes down to confidence. 

I like Mel Robbins definition of confidence.

“Confidence is the willingness to try.” —Mel Robbins

This morning in the shower, I was thinking about the red lipstick. Thinking do I actually like it? Perhaps I don’t. 

And I realised that the reason that I thought I didn’t, was because I didn’t have feedback from others about whether they thought I could pull it off.

Then I thought about it. If no one else is involved, I f**king love red lipstick. 

So wear the red lipstick. What ever your red lipstick is, just f**king do it. 

When your brain talks shit …

The contents of my brain today:

I’m too ugly. I’m too fat. I’m too busy. I have nothing worthy to say. I’m uninteresting. I’m boring. People are mean. It’s all too hard. Nothing’s ever going to be easy. I’m shit at everything. I’m always going to be shit at everything. Nobody likes me. I shouldn’t feel so edgy. That just makes me needy. I’m not allowed to feel this way. I’m tired. I want to eat all the brownie.

Today has been emotionally draining. So I’m going to keep telling myself, you’re allowed to feel that way. It’s ok. It’s normal. It’ll pass. But fucking hell, it’s hard. And some days just suck. Tomorrow may be better. It may not be. But it will get better. Some days just suck. Be kind to yourself, it’s ok sweetheart.